Ok girls…back in my 20s & 30s when i was wild and crazy (i have since mellowed tremendously ), I hung out with mostly cops (undercover drug officers) so they were really WILD, full of testosterone… and couldn’t have had more camaraderie. Every night i’d hear “Code of the west”…basically they were loyal to each other, had each other’s backs, and prior to “What happens in Vegas stays in Vegas” these guys kept their exploits/secrets confidential. I always admired that.

I think as women in the lifestyle, we need to have that same kind of loyalty to each other…and have each other’s backs. We have to have our own Code…like Code of the Chicks…or something like that . We need to be able to depend on each other, be able to reach out and definitely be able to trust one another. Just wanted to put that out there and get your thoughts if you are so inclined. xoxo kelly

I definitely agree… though maybe with a twist. I’m fairly new to the lifestyle (and loving every minute so far). Since our community/family is relatively small, I think it’s important to both look out for each other (ie. sharing information about shady people or even passing along a good word). I find, however, that there is a fine line between looking out for each other and gossiping (or cockblocking). I am a fiercely loyal person and one who REALLY loves indulging in the lifestyle. As such, I’m extremely protective of my friends but I ALSO want everyone to get the most out of their play time. I like to think that everyone else has such good intentions but have found a lot of politicking… throwing others under the bus to serve one self. I hope we can strengthen our community and look out for each other in the right way… always having the safety and pleasure of our friends at heart when we say and do things.

I love hearing all your responses and feedback. This is exactly what I was hoping for when I brought it up. Just as in everything in the Lifestyle, there’s lots of grey area. One of the great points was that, as women, we do tend to “Run the show” so to speak and don’t get called out for bad behavior like the single guys do. But as we know, sometimes women can be just as bad And we need to be on the same team and have that camaraderie. We don’t all have to be best friends, by any means, but at least have respect for each other! I liked what g00ni3 said too about throwing others under the bus for self serving reasons. As i say in my SLS profile, in a perfect swinging world there would be NO DRAMA. But we are all imperfect people dealing with the emotional intimacy of sex. And like Sweetnsassy said, we can get our feelings hurt or hurt others. As cliche as it sounds, it all goes back to the Golden Rule…Treat others as you want to be treated! That goes for men and women Swinging is an absolute blast..and I personally have never had an issue at any of the PartyPerks events. So i don’t want to make it seem like I was calling anyone out here. This was more of a general observation on the Lifestyle as a whole. And I always love hearing what the PP847 girls (and guys) have to say about things!!! xoxo k

Sassy…you have no idea how many single and married women have flirted and played with hubby and shied away from even saying hello much less ask me permission. I’ve always tried to make it a point to ask even if I’ve already played with or know the couple well; It’s just common courtesy. And now that I’m playing as a single woman…I just don’t assume that I can still play with the same people and so I still ask beforehand.

And so I say…I truly enjoy the community of swingers as I feel that we all tend to look out for one another and I do enjoy how open and honest we can all be. Of course there will be some that may have some drama or some that do not fit our “ideal” swinging participant …but as they say…there’s a pot for every lid! Lol.

Let us all continue to build great long-lasting friendships and keep everyone happy.

Don’t be sorry, Sassy…it wasn’t you. Lol.

Glad to know I wasn’t delusional in my thinking. Lol.

So this all falls back to Kelly’s point… camaraderie is a good thing.